The Cake Eaters’ Book Club – The Dalai Lama’s Cat

Before I had children, I used to read all the time. It was one of my favourite things to do. Then after the children came along, I found I struggled to get any time to just sit and read without wanting to fall asleep. 

So I started a book club. The Cake Eaters’ Book Club. We meet once a month and try to take it in turn to suggest a book to read. It has definitely encouraged me to read books that I probably wouldn’t normally, and it’s turned out that I have enjoyed most of them. 

The most recent one I have enjoyed is The Dalai Lama’s Cat by David Michie. I’m not a massive animal lover. It’s not that I dislike them, but I’ve never really had a pet (apart from the rabbit I bought my daughter but my husband ended up looking after.) I was initially a bit sceptical about reading this book. It is written from the perspective of a cat. But I gave it a go. Turns out I really enjoyed it. 

The cat is adopted by the Dalai Lama after pretty much being abandoned. It then goes on to tell the stories of what goes on at the household – the people that come to visit (Hollywood celebrities, self help book authors etc.) I found the book to be very calming and happy. It made me think about my views on things that are classed as “material” and whether they’re necessary for happiness. 

Everyone in the group enjoyed the book. They felt it was an easy book to read and all said the same about it having a calming effect. 

I wonder if the author has done some research as to who has visited the Dalai Lama, and to whether there is some element of truth behind what is written. 

This is quite a spiritual book and good to read if you’re maybe feeling a bit disheartened. 

Read With Me


It’s been a while since my last post. A lot has happened. 

We now have another member of the family – Iris Orlaith. She was born in May. She’s absolutely beautiful. Really likes a cry though🙂 I feel a lot older starting with this little one. I seem to get tired a lot quicker. I think also though, when Sebastian was born he had that many hospital appointments/visits that we didn’t get time to think about how tired we were. This one has been a lot more relaxed and I feel pretty knackered. 

Before finding out I was pregnant with this little one, we, unfortunately, lost a pregnancy. I found at my first scan that there was no heart beat. It’s a bit of a crappy thing to have to deal with and I think I have struggled a bit with it. It’s a bit of a taboo subject I’ve found. Not many people want to, or feel they can, talk about it. I wanted to talk to someone about it but found it hard to find someone who wanted to. I think there is also a certain expectation that you should just get on with things, that you don’t really have a right to feel upset. And people say some highly inappropriate/unhelpful things. 

But I don’t want to dwell on this when there are happy times with Iris. But I know I’ll always remember when the other one was due and will do something small to recognise the date each year. 

Moving on…..Sebastian is doing well at nursery. He’s still a little clumsy and my heart is in my mouth whenever I watch him try to run or climb things. He has days where he falls over quite a bit, which I think is affected by how tired he is. But he’s a beautiful boy. Full of love and cheekiness. 

Grace is perfect at school. She loves going and is getting on really well. She has been chosen to take part in a Sefton Schools dance show, so I’m looking forward to going to see that in a couple of weeks. She is great with Sebastian and Iris. She’s great with all children really. There is the odd little flash of teenagerness creeping in every now and then – I know it’s way too early. But she’s a good girl with a big heart. She wants to be a doctor or a vet, so I need to start saving!! She’s also developed a new obsession with cleaning – just not her own room 

All in all, we’re lucky to have these three little monkeys. I may not be saying this when they’re teenagers through!! 

Happy 2016

So, it’s been quite a while since I posted. Hope you are all having a good start to 2016.

All is well with us and we have a new addition on the way, who is due by C-Section on 23rd May. Another little girl to add to all the girls already in our family.


I’m quite nervous about having three children to look after. Panicking about how I’ll keep them all entertained. Luckily I have Grace to help me when James isn’t there. She loves keeping the little ones entertained, and she’s really good at it.

It’ll also be nice to actually see James!! Shifts are rubbish when it comes to planning stuff to do, so being able to see him during the week will be nice.

This was just a quick update, until I can think of something more interesting to right.

Happy February.